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Face It. Recognizing and Conquering The Hidden Fear That Drives All Conflict At Work

ISBN: 814408354
EAN: N/A

Year: 2002
Pages: 134

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• Table of Contents
• BackCover
• Face It - Recognizing and Conquering the Hidden Fear That Drives All Conflict at Work
• Preface
• Introduction
• The Patterns
• Insecurity
• Coaching vs. Therapy
• Business Pressures
• From Fear to Freedom
• Part I: The People in Your Neighborhood
• Chapter 1: The Worrier
• Why Worry?
• Putting a Stop to Worry
• Developing Practical Tools
• Embracing the Fear
• Enhancing Self-Esteem
• If You Work with a Worrier
• Chapter 2: The Controller
• How Controllers Behave
• The Problems Controllers Create
• What s Behind Controlling?
• Getting Control of Control
• If You Work with a Controller
• Chapter 3: The Fake
• Bad Faith
• The Truth Is, I May Not Measure Up
• I Don t Deserve the Respect I Get
• I Am Not of Value
• The Active Deceiver
• Partial Disclosure
• Owning the Truth
• Accepting Responsibility and Self-Forgiveness
• The Bottom Line
• The Basic Formula
• If You Work with a Fake
• Chapter 4: The Attention-Seeker
• The Behaviors
• The Problem
• The Fix
• If You Work with Attention-Seekers
• Chapter 5: The Victim
• Who Is the Victim?
• Lies We Tell Ourselves
• Owning Blame
• The Victim Response
• Victims Generalize
• But It s True
• Victim Thinking
• Agency
• Becoming More Agent-Like
• Personalization and Self-Forgiveness
• If You Work with a Victim
• Chapter 6: The Prisoner
• Prisoners of Anxiety
• It s Often About Childhood
• It s Not Always About Childhood
• Getting Out of Jail
• Getting Out - and Staying Out
• If You Work with a Prisoner
• Part II: Hell Is Not Just Other People
• Chapter 7: The Transcendence Model
• The Transcendence Model
• Love, Death, and Robots
• Rising Above
• First Principles
• A Better Way
• Going Meta
• Chapter 8: Here Comes the Judge
• Making Judgments
• Who Is the Judge?
• The Experience of Self
• Lighten Up
• Where Self Comes From
• Ego
• Self as an Illusion
• The Challenge
• In Summary
• Chapter 9: Our Shaky Foundations
• Meaning
• The Ultimate Paradox
• Nothingness
• Chapter 10: How We Judge
• Meta-Level Judgments
• Communication Sins
• The Unspoken Gap Analysis
• The Risks of Judging
• Where Ego Steps In
• Perceiving Angst
• Avoiding Angst
• We re All Fakes
• Part III: Moving from Fear to Freedom
• Chapter 11: What s Your Operating Strategy?
• Detecting Your Operating Strategy
• Defining Your Operating Strategy
• Transcending Your Operating Strategy
• Chapter 12: A Case of Disidentification
• Emotions
• Emotions Are Good
• We Become Our Feelings
• Isolating Your Feelings
• Managing Your Feelings
• Owning Your Feelings
• Embracing Your Feelings
• Chapter 13: There Goes the Judge
• Managing the Judge
• The Listening Game
• Exiling the Judge
• Gaining Proximity
• Chapter 14: A Way of Being
• Authenticity
• Will
• Will in Action
• Commitment
• Chapter 15: A Better Way
• Full-Exposure Communication
• Flow
• Meditation
• Joyful Egolessness
• Bibliography
• Index
• Index_B-C
• Index_D
• Index_E
• Index_F
• Index_G-H
• Index_I-J
• Index_L-M
• Index_N-P
• Index_R-S
• Index_T
• Index_U-V
• Index_W