Promises are an important tool in hostage negotiation, helping the negotiator establish rapport and credibility. I promise to do something for you, you see that I do it, you realize I have credibility. We have a relationship—I promise, you promise.

Generally, promises start small and work toward the big one—the promise to surrender. A hostage negotiator will often go first, making a small promise he knows he can keep. One typical promise a hostage negotiator might make would be to tell the subject the truth. Small promise, but an important one. Down the line, maybe food and water would be delivered in exchange for a number of hostages. As promises are made and kept, the negotiator gains credibility—he (or she) can deliver on his promises.

The corollary to this is to never make a promise you can’t keep. You don’t promise that the suspect won’t be cuffed when you know he will be. It’s a quick fix that will bite you in the end.

Negotiators should remember that there are really two types of promises—explicit promises and unspoken ones. The explicit promises are pretty obvious: I promise to send food in, you promise to send out three hostages. But there are unspoken promises as well. And it’s important to keep them.

They begin with the agreement to start negotiations at a certain time and place. Saying that you’ll get information about a certain item is an important commitment—a promise, whether it’s stated that way or not.

Keeping promises does more than demonstrate to the other side that the negotiator is consistent and trustworthy. It shows that the negotiating team has the power to follow through on an agreement. It’s also a chance to build up trust with the person on the other side of the negotiation. Coming through on a promise is like pushing down on a seesaw—I helped you up, now you do the same for me.

Negotiate and Win. Proven Strategies from the NYPD's Top Hostage Negotiator
Negotiate and Win: Proven Strategies from the NYPDs Top Hostage Negotiator
ISBN: 0071737774
EAN: 2147483647
Year: 2003
Pages: 180 © 2008-2017.
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