Safety
for bosses, 233
confronting with, 79, 81, 109 “111
loss of/restoring, 173 “174, 186
prime for, 191, 193 “194
problems, 105
risk signs, 91
in searching, 167 “168
skills, combining, 98 “99, 108 “109, 170, 223
starting with, 89 “100, 223, 236 “237
valve, 194 “195
School problems, 27 “29, 36
Scripts, lifelong , 250 “251
Self
differentiating , 49 “52, 53 “54
enable, 68, 69 “70, 259
inability and, 162
motivating, 68 “69, 259
Self assessment, 13 “14, 253 “257
Sharing
ideas, 252
path , 100
stories, 103 “105
Signs, responding to, 47 “48
Silence
in marriage , 237 “239
speaking up v., 43 “44, 227, 235 “236, 237 “238
violence v., 61 “65, 227
in workplace, 245 “246
Six-source model, 68 “76, 77, 79, 125, 160 “161, 224 “225, 258 “261
Skills
listening, 191
mastering, 11 “13
model, 52, 142, 169, 170, 196, 215
self-test, 253 “257
working on, 252
Software development leaders , 55 “57, 58 “59, 66, 70, 77 “78
Solutions
incorrect, 27 “29
work-around , 138 “139
Somber, appropriately, 136
Something came up excuse , 176 “180, 197
Sources
getting to, 190
of influence, 68 “76, 77, 80, 125, 160 “161, 224 “225, 258 “261
Speaking up
avoiding, 40 “41
cost of, 45 “46
cost of not, 44, 48
in private, 97 “98
silence v., 43 “44, 227, 235 “236, 237 “238
when you should not, 48 “52
Stories, 58 “59, 101
completing, 76 “78, 93
mastering, 79 “80, 110, 218 “219, 221 “222, 228, 239, 254
sharing, 103 “105
ugly, 59 “67
Strength, 69 “70
weakness v., 68, 69 “70, 259
Success, praising, 262 “268