Focus and individuality make us happy

Happiness is not outside us. Happiness is inside. Our minds and our emotions, and what we think of ourselves , make us happy or unhappy . We are happy if we have high self-respect and self-esteem.

Self-esteem can be temporarily boosted by drugs or drink, flattery, power, money, or by deceiving ourselves. Yet the reliable, lasting way to high self-esteem is by nurturing the best of our selves. A positive and accurate self-image is based on individuality: an authentic sense of who we are and why we live life our way. Lasting happiness cannot be gained through consumption. Happiness requires active participation in what we value. To do things well, enjoy them, and take pride in what we have done these fertilize happiness; they demand development and individuality.

Reaching for the best only in the areas that suit you is more fun than bother. Getting the best becomes relatively easy.

Its a funny thing about life

if you refuse to accept anything but the best ,

you very often get it.

Somerset Maugham

Creative emotions possess and delight us. They come from caring, attention, focus, consistent dreaming, from passionately wanting to create.

To dance well, love well, raise children well, play golf well, cook well, ask questions well, direct a movie well inspired actions make us happy. Individuality and focus make us happy.