blame, 7879, 85, 183, 184, see also victims
coaching, therapy vs., 34
communication, see also listening
blame as problem with, 85
by controllers, 3031
effect of chatter on, 189190
full-exposure , 215221
partial disclosure in, 5456, 216
to relieve worry, 15
˜˜sins in, 146148
conceptual exaggeration, 146
conditional affection, 111
conditional operating strategies, 163164
consciousness, 125126, 143
controllers, 2844
angst avoidance by, 153
behavior of, 2833
change tools for, 3744
ego in, 127
embracing of feelings by, 187
emotions in patterns of, 171
insecurities/fears of, 134
meta-level thinking by, 118, 144, 160
motivations for behavior of, 3537
partial disclosure by, 216
problems created by, 3334
proximity and choices of, 201
working with, 44
conviction , forgetting , 206, 214
Csikszentmihalyi, Mihaly , 143, 221