WHAT THE EXPERTS SAY ABOUT EMOTIONAL CONTINUITY MANAGEMENT TOOLS

"As a teacher trainer, I have led violence prevention workshops. Sometimes, teachers are victims of violence because their inability to manage their own emotions mingles explosively with an adolescent's inability to manage his or hers. This is not just a book for the private sector. Emotional Continuity Management tools can save lives in tumultuous inner-city schools !" ” Hal W. Lanse, Ph.D., Teacher Trainer, New York City, New York.

Dr. Vali's Emotional Tornado Scale

Range	Damage	Potential Behaviors and Examples
VV-0	None	Normal general whining, non-specific complaints about life's annoyances and daily challenges. No demand for alignments. Share and vent.
		I hate Mondays when everything is a mess.
VV-1	Noteworthy	Specific complaints focused on specific people and issues. Some expectation for alignment.
		Joe never cleans his desk. Don't you think he'' a loser?
VV-2	Significant	Specific complaints focused on specific people and issues. Elevated emotional charge, more expectation for alignment and support. Early generalized references to outcome.
		Joe's a loser, he is such a slob. Don't you just hate his desk? We should do
VV-3	Critical	something about him! Specific complaints focused on specific people and issues. Increased emotional charge, elevated demands for alignment. More references to outcome and generalized plans for actions.
		I can't stand Joe. It's driving me crazy. Why don't we tell management and get him out of here. Let's ask Sue to join us.
VV-4	Extreme	Specific complaints focused on specific people and issues. Increased charge, elevated demands for alignment and allegiance. Specific demands for outcomes , and specific plans and direct actions.
		It's got to be Joe or me. Even Louise hates his attitude. We're going to the union and getting him out of here. I heard he had an affair.
VV-5	Catastrophic	Specific complaints focused on specific people and issues. Increased emotional charge, elevated demands for alignment, allegiances and loyalties, with threats of abandonment. Demands for outcomes at all cost. Actions being taken. Threats.
		Sue won't help us get Joe out of here. She must be having sex with him too. We can get rid of her easy, just go to HR and tell them she's not doing her work. I'll hide some of her project data and then she'll either join us or get out of here.

Observations on the Attributes of an Emotional Tornado

Use this practice sheet to write about emotional observations:

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Describe your hunches:

Some Early Recognizable Signs of a Spin

Incongruent Giggling	Avoidance
Malicious Compliance	Non-Compliance
Blame Statements	Eye Contact
Body Language	No Eye Contact
Littering	Procrastination
Gossiping	Self Projection
Unsolicited Opinions	Avoidance Of Tasks
Not Returning Phone Calls	Humiliation
Excessive Perfumes	Inappropriate Humor
Unsolicited Religious Evangelism	Trashing Shared Space
Invalidation	Anger
Seductions	Minimizing
Leaving Tasks 1/4 Undone	Innuendo
Whisperings	Raised Eyebrows
Nagging	Dismissing
Ignoring	Interrupting
Discrediting	Partial Truth
Partial Lie	Arrogance
Intimidation	Distance
Disgust	Corrections
Jealousy	Inattention
Boredom	Incongruence
Denial	Unwillingness
Criticism	Questions
Intimacy	Manipulations
Poor Grooming	Compliments
Negation	Poor Boundaries
Poor Hygiene	Untreated Health Issues
Outbursts	Drug/Alcohol Abuse
Excessive Perfume	Offensive T-Shirts/Clothes
Illegal Activities	Sexual Innuendo
Incongruent Perkiness	Demanding Praise
Non-Completion Of Agreements	Gestures
Negative Facial Expressions	Mind Games
Rebelling Against Dress Code	Power Plays
Loud Stereos In Quiet Spaces	Manipulative Silences
Teasing	Harassment
Jokes	Eating Loudly During Meetings
Illicit Love Affairs	Spreading Rumors
Starting Rumors	False Charm
Guilt Language	Shame Language
Cursing	Exclusions/Racism